"If You Don't Want To Connect" and Other Lame Statements on LinkedIn

September 23rd, 2008 | by Jason Alba |

A few days ago someone must have given a seminar on inviting people to connect on LinkedIn, and included the following two points: 

  1. Always, always, always put in a sentence that says “If you would not like to connect, please archive my request.”
  2. Invite Jason Alba to connect on LinkedIn.

Why, oh why, did I get over 30 of these in one day?  Perhaps these invitations were from people who have read my book, seen a presentation, or read about me somewhere.  That’s fine, and I’ll connect with them… but why are they telling me what to do with the invitation?

I don’t like being told what to do (I’m stubborn that way, and probably not alone).  I know the three buttons on the LinkedIn invitation acceptance page are lacking, and that sucks.  But man I hate getting invitations from people who don’t tell me why they want to connect, or how they came across me, what to do if I don’t want to connect with them. 

It almost makes me want to IDK them.  Maybe I’m just grumpy…  

Please send me an appropriate, informational invitation, and don’t tell me what to do and not do with it.

I should mention, the second edition of I’m on LinkedIn — Now What??? includes more information on what to include in a LinkedIn invitation.  If you want to see a lame invitation, click here.

What are other LAME things you are seeing people do on LinkedIn?

  1. 3 Responses to “"If You Don't Want To Connect" and Other Lame Statements on LinkedIn”

  2. By Teena in Toronto on Sep 23, 2008 | Reply

    That’s kind of cocky, isn’t it?

  3. By Jason Alba on Sep 23, 2008 | Reply

    Teena, it is kind of cocky, I agree. Maybe I’m just in a bad mood. I have seen this trend pick up in the last couple of months, though. If you (I say that generically) take the time to customize the invitation, why don’t you take out the canned message and put something more personal in, other than “please don’t IDK me, even though I won’t remind you why you know me, or tell you why we should connect :s”

    Also, a recent post you wrote on your blog is titled What your socks say about you. Let’s take that idea to this issue, and ask “what your LinkedIn invitation says about you.” Maybe that’s what I should have written, instead.

  4. By Lisa Hendrickson on Nov 5, 2008 | Reply

    From what I have seen, it’s from people who are in the huge networking groups, (to stay unnamed) and they out to score large numbers of connections.

    I got handslapped once when I was doing invitations inappropriately, but accidently. I didn’t know the procedure:)

    Now I do. And I don’t get many IDK at this point.

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